How Do You Truly Forgive?

Make a list of all the offenses caused by your offender.
Ask yourself, “Do I really want to carry all that pain with me for the rest of my life?” The Lord wants you to take the pain from the past and release it into His hands.
Then take the one who offended you off your emotional hook and place your offender onto God's hook. The Lord knows how to deal with your offender... in His time and in His way. God says.
"It is mine to avenge; I will repay." (Deuteronomy 32:35)

Prayer to Forgive Your Offender
"Lord Jesus, thank You for caring about how much my heart has been hurt. You know the pain I have felt because of ( list every offense ). Right now I release all that pain into Your hands. Thank You, Lord, for dying on the cross for me and extending Your forgiveness to me. As an act of my will, I choose to forgive ( name ). Right now, I move ( name ) off of my emotional hook to Your hook. I refuse all thoughts of revenge. I trust that in Your time and in Your way You will deal with ( name ) as You see fit. And Lord, thank You for giving me Your power to forgive so that I can be set free.

In the Name of Jesus I pray. Amen."

How to Pray for Those Who Hurt You

"The fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law." (Galatians 5:22-23)

"Lord, I pray that ( name ) will be filled with the fruit of love and in turn will be able to love others.
"Lord, I pray that ( name ) will be filled with the fruit of joy
"Lord, I pray that ( name ) will be filled with the fruit of peace—"Lord, I pray that ( name ) will be filled with the fruit of patience and in turn will extend that same extraordinary patience to others.
"Lord, I pray that ( name ) will be filled with the fruit of kindness and in turn will extend that same undeserved kindness to others.
"Lord, I pray that ( name ) will be filled with the fruit of goodness and in turn will reflect the moral goodness of Jesus before others.
"Lord, I pray that ( name ) will be filled with the fruit of faithfulness and in turn will desire to be faithful to You, to Your Word, and to others.
"Lord, I pray that ( name ) will be filled with the fruit of gentleness and in turn will be able to be gentle with others.
"Lord, I pray that ( name ) will be filled with the fruit of self-control—the control by Christ of self—and in turn will rely on His control for enablement to break out of bondage and to be an example before others.
I pray in the Name of Jesus. Amen."

"The wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere." (James 3:17